If you’re new to the blog, or it’s been awhile since you visited, let me catch you up on what life has been like.
Ten years ago, I started this blog when I moved from Nebraska to North Dakota. I was going through a bad time. I was lost and heartbroken, and I needed to get as far away from Nebraska as I could. North Dakota may not sound like the optimal place to run away to, but I fell in love with Grand Forks. By the December of 2012, I found myself moving back to Nebraska. There were a few reasons that prompted the move, but the main ones were a type 2 diabetes diagnosis and running out of money for school (I was working on my bachelor’s for the umpteenth time).
January 2013-January 2016 saw the following happen:
-I worked in a medical lab.
-I began dating, and got married to the boy. That’s how I referred to him on here for the longest time. His name is actually Tom, and to this day I firmly believe that the best choice I ever made was agreeing to go on a date with him.
-Early Term miscarriages 1 & 2.
January 2016-February 2017
-Tried being a homemaker, it was a bit of a disaster.
-We blew up our car engine by throwing a rod. This led to a giant headache trying to replace the engine. Pretty sure by the time we sold the car we had replaced the engine 4 times. Important lesson kids, always stay on top of your car’s oil levels and changes. It’s and expensive problem you don’t want to deal with.
-We were so broke, and I completely lost hope that things would ever get better. It was a really dark time.
February 2017-April 2018
-I went to work in the lab at our local pediatric hospital.
-I was sick all the time, mostly with respiratory infections.
-Was officially diagnosed with PCOS. I’d been fighting to get someone to officially diagnosis it since 2012. It’s awful trying to get female reproductive health issues diagnosed and treated.
-Decided to leave the job mainly due to my rapidly deteriorating health.
-Adopted an 11 year old Puggle. She’s my first dog ever, and she’s my baby.
-Early term miscarriage 3.
April 2018-August 2019
-Attempt #2 of being a homemaker, again was a bit of a disaster.
-Got officially diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, and depression. I already knew I was struggling, but it was really helpful to finally have an actual diagnosis.
-It was a dark time, but also a time where I learned quite a bit about myself.
August 2019-March 2020
-Went back to the hospital lab job as a casual employee.
-My grandmother passed away.
-Early term miscarriage 4.
March 2020-Now (April 2021)
-At the end of February 2020, my job was going really well. I was getting healthy, and was finally losing weight. I was on top of the world, and when a full time position opened up I decided I was ready. Let me just say right now, if I had known what was going to hit by mid-March, I would’ve never gone to being full time.
-Working in a hospital lab, during the first 9 months of Covid was a special level of Hell. Eventually, I may be able to write more about it, but I’m not mentally or emotionally in a place where I can do that yet.
-The last week of December 2020, my mental/physical/emotional health bailed on me. I’d been trying so hard, for months, to hold it together. I kept telling myself if I could just keep going eventually things would better. At 2 a.m. on 12/28 I was sitting in the shower, sobbing, and I knew I was officially at my breaking point. Months of barely sleeping, high stress, panic attacks, crying all the time, and constant nightmares when I would manage to sleep had all taken their toll. I was put on leave through January, with the intention that I would be heading back to work. I had countless doctor appointments, and by the end of January I came to the realization that there was no way I would be ready to go back to work. So, I chose my health and my sanity over my paycheck and benefits. I know I made the right choice, but it wasn’t an easy choice.
-Early term miscarriage 5.
What does the second decade look like?
I’ll be completely honest with you, right now I qualify a good day as one where I get out of bed and put pants on. Overall, I’m not doing very good. I am starting to heal from last year, but it’s slow going. Right now, I can only manage baby steps, but I’ve decided baby steps of progress are better than no progress at all.
I’ve been encouraged in therapy to return to writing, and right now the easiest writing for me to do is this blog. And since it’s important to have goals, I will end this post with a small list of goals I have for the next few years:
Goal 1: Getting healthy so that expanding our family (whether biologically or by adoption) is an actual possibility.
Goal 2: Moving The Banana Gift from being a dream to a reality.
Like I said, it’s a small list. I’ll be back tomorrow!