We’ve Lost Our Princess

Published December 28, 2016 by Malia

When I was five, I wanted Princess Leia to be my mom.  She was gorgeous, funny, and kicked butt.  She spoke her mind, and didn’t let anyone bully her (we all saw what happened to Jabba).  On top of all this, she was a princess!  Five-year-old me was pretty sure she didn’t need much more to recommend her for the position.  However, the role of “mother” was already filled in my house, so all I could do was dream about the mother I’d never have.

When I was in junior high, I read an article in Time and learned that Carrie Fisher had a daughter.  I was secretly jealous of Billie Lourd.  Her mom was Princess Leia, the coolest woman in the world!  She was clearly the luckiest kid on the planet.

It’s been a very long time since I wished to have a space princess mom.  I got older.  I discovered that my real mom was basically Wonder Woman (always saving the day, and loving me more than I deserved), and that in the real world, Princess Leia wasn’t quite so perfect.

Carrie Fisher was a very funny lady, and a fantastic writer.  She did what is so hard to do.  She wrote about the things she struggled with, and did it honestly and beautifully.  I’ve read her memoirs and laughed ’til I cried as I read stories that made my problems seem so small and my life seem so normal.  Without her writing, we wouldn’t know that George Lucas firmly believed that there was no underwear in space.  (I truly wonder what NASA has to say about this.)

Carrie Fisher would’ve made a terrible mom for me.  However, she gave me (and the rest of the world) Princess Leia, and for that I’ll always be grateful.

5 comments on “We’ve Lost Our Princess

  • Another beautiful piece of writing by my lovely friend! I have shared this to my FB page, if the ancient I-phone 3 just did what I instructed it to do, just now) I have enjoyed your work now for a while, Miss Malia, and you continue to enthrall me and entertain me, every time you post I just can’t wait to read the latest! Love to you and “the Boy”, and May your New Year BE WONDERFUL!

  • I did not fully appreciate the full impact of the loss of Princess Leia (Carrie Fisher) until the latest Star Wars movie came out. I was 7 when I first saw Princess Leia and, while it was impossible for me to grasp at the time, she ended up being an icon for me throughout my whole life. Princess Leia was ahead of her time in so many ways—she was strong, she was the leader of her planet, she didn’t let some man dictate to her how things should be done, she took care of things & found ways to save herself & others without having to always be just the damsel in distress. She was witty, funny, brave, strong, self-reliant, and caring.

    I had no idea how much her existence meant to me until she was taken way too soon. It was 40 years before I realized how much Princess Leia had shaped me throughout all those many years. She was such a great role model for girls & I’m so grateful that she impacted me at such an early age.

    I will miss our Princess forever. To dear Carrie Fisher, thank you for bringing to life such a great character in such an impactful way.

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